A Conversation About Independence at the Water Slides
Some days my heart feels like it’s being squeezed the way one longs to squeeze a tube of toothpaste: from the middle, letting all the minty-freshness bulge on either end, while simultaneously being twisted like a washcloth being wrung out before being applied to ease a migraine. In those moments, the least thing I feel […]
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I remember what I was doing when I turned 30 (which was ridiculously hilarious). And I remember what I was thinking about when I turned 31 (which was really genuine and earnest, and very much the basis for what I still believe). In seven hours, I’ll be 32 (which I don’t remember just yet). Much like last year, I’m […]
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But seriously. Love. Yourself. Unconditionally.
What follows is probably going to sound like page straight out of a PSA titled Self-Help 101, but the topic has incessantly and incandescently been rolling through my mind like that little marble in the Labyrinth board game, dodging manholes (admittedly falling in quite often). Last week I wrote, My real fear-based decision was arguably […]
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What’s scarier than nightmares? Fear.
Sand would be the preferred place to stick my head, but I’d settle for the corner of my closet behind my collection of three pea coats in various lengths and hues or the cubby in a set of shelves behind my faux Murphy bed. All this Oakland sunshine has been seeping through my turned up […]
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Trial Balloons
I had the most Oakland of Saturdays this weekend. After a run through the Trestle Glen hills, I made a pot of coffee and typed emails. Within half an hour I was on my way to the farmer’s market with Amara, and doing the broccoli wave to friends Michelle and Gary while ogling farm-fresh eggs. […]
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The Bystander’s Quandary
(Todays guest post comes from my friend, Honor. She’s married, but that doesn’t mean she hasn’t found herself in a relationship-related pickle. Feel free to leave advice/thoughts in the comments section! Honor, the floor is yours.) So I’m in a quandary. I have a friend, let’s call him Mike, that I’ve known since before we […]
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Is All Fair in Dating When it Comes to Love?
Fairness is an idea that popped up a lot in my datingverse. On the road, Megan and I debated what was “fair” when it came to a first date. Does one owe a first date anything beyond guarded politeness? Is it okay to end a date “early” if you know you don’t see a lifetime […]
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The Magic of True Love, Track One: The Shadow (What Luck)
[Ed note: We’re doing something a little different here on the 50/50 blog today! I think you’re gonna love it. Teenager is the moniker of one of my favorite musicians, Bevan Herbekian. I am honored and delighted to be part of rolling out his new album, The Magic of True Love, one track at a time, across blog […]
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Recess!
Noticed a slight downward tick in posts? Fret not, it’s only because Alicia had oral surgery — and admittedly, that means she was in a slight anxiety spiral about the whole endeavor. Luckily, her wisdom tooth is out, and once she’s off pain meds she’ll be just as wise as before (with even better […]
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A Treatise on Status Updates
Sometimes I start typing, and as my fingers flick across the keyboard I fall under the illusion that I am writing ideas that are fresh and new, that I am exploring relationships and dating in a new paradigm, that these words are going to change the way we think about love. Today is not one […]
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