Reblog: Let’s Start Being Honest About What We Want
Shutterstock Two nights ago, a friend and I were having a conversation about what we’ve learned from our vastly different dating experiences (mine in going on a lot of dates, his on taking a break from the datingverse for a few months). He noted one big takeaway had been to be honest, regardless of […]
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Some Random Thoughts on Insecurity in the Datingverse
This post should probably be about South Carolina and the date I had there. In fact, I’ve been noodling around with drafts of that post for longer than most people spend doing their taxes and making fun of lumberjacks. But the truth is, I have other fish frying up in my head at the moment, […]
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You’re Not in California Anymore
As promised, some thoughts on the mindset that makes us American. Back in Virginia, a gun-toting, law-abiding citizen claimed California couldn’t be part of any union he wanted to or agreed to belong to. I’ll get back to this in a hot second. First, let’s consider: In Nashville, Megs and I toured the home of […]
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Date 41 – North Carolina – Part One
Holy. Smokes. This is date forty-one. Admittedly not state forty-one due to a few doubling up, but seriously. Forty-one dates!! This one’s a two-parter too. North Carolina Mike, as I affectionately titled him in my phone after we started corresponding via text, was a mere sixty-one percent match (and thirty-two percent my enemy) according to […]
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Killing ‘em With Kindness
What’s weird about themes is they can be hard to see when you’re in the middle of a story. I always dreaded teachers asked what the theme of this week’s book was when we hadn’t gotten to the end. Themes often make sense only in full context (don’t get me started on the often subtle […]
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Dating in Virginia – Part Two (Yep, this date was so epic it requires two posts)
Folks, for Part 1 of the epic Virginia date, check out a few posts back. Otherwise, we’re jumping right in as though you know what’s up. The adrenaline surging through my veins didn’t slow even once the guns were put away in their safe boxes and I was assured there was no ammunition in them. […]
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Dating in Virginia – Part One (Yep, this date was so epic it requires two posts)
Until we arrived in Virginia, I’d yet to feel as though America was some completely alien place. Sure, the scenery and accents morphed as Megan and I traveled east and a little south, and things such as pacing of life and availability of arugula were noted as “different”, but it wasn’t until Virginia that I […]
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Response to Dan Slater’s “A Million First Dates”
When I think about commitment and why some relationships go the way of the dodo, the first place I consider laying blame has never been the Internet. Vast immaturity on the part of my partner? Sure. Abuse? Absolutely. But the existence of online dating? Um, no. That very thought, as fleshed out and discussed by […]
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Day in DC
After waking up earlier than birdsongs, Megs and I drove into, got lost within, and finally found a place to park in Washington, D.C. We had about six hours to tootle around and see the nation’s capitol before our D.C. date and in true Megan and me fashion, tootle we did not: whirly-derby race is […]
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Graciously Saying “No More Dates, Thanks!”
Folks, Alicia still is sort of out of intelligent writing commission today. So, enjoy a piece she wrote for another site about how to kindly let someone down. One of my personal flaws is not knowing when I want to stop dating someone. Sign one should probably be that I don’t return their phone calls in a […]
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