A Third Date That Will Live in Infamy
Despite some smish-smash of textversation that resulted in confusion as to when, where, and how we’d meet up, my third date with Lux began with only one hitch: he wasn’t at the restaurant. I’d circled the place twice, brightly colored shirts every which way, but he was nowhere to be seen. As I reached to […]
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Winner: Most Ingenious Profile Moment
OkCupid is a place of never-ending surprise. You might think you’ve seen it all. In fact, you might feel like you need a break because everyone is blurring together, the people you message never message you back, and the people who do message you don’t seem to be your cup of tea. But then. You […]
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Some Days, Two Loves Combine
Yesterday was one of those days. For my day job, I posted a blog titled “How to Use PDF: Online Dating Edition” over at Nitro. That’s right – it’s a blog about two things I like one whole heck of a lot: dating and PDF. Want to see what the new way of managing your dating […]
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A Response to The Worst Online Dating Profile Ever
(Ed note: Folks, meet Angie! She’s kicking off something a little new around here: occasional guest posts! Fresh voices, new points of view, and a little extra time for Alicia to work on her book and Megan to finish the movie. Angie is an engineer by day, food blogger on nights and weekends, and a […]
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The Stature of Limitations
Height is a funny characteristic: not much in our control, in flux toward the start and end of our lives (with several consistent years in the middle, usually). Yet while plenty of single people are willing to work around other uncontrollable aspects of another person, like dyslexia or shoe size, height isn’t so lucky. Pesky […]
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What Really Goes On at a Single’s Event
In early February, I noticed something different about my OkCupid homepage. Besides the photo roll call of people I might want to check out and the “recently updated profiles” list (aka, a tool I never found useful), there was a box inviting me to an OKCupid MeetUp. Yep, the online dating site was encouraging me […]
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For the Best
Alicia here. There’s something I notably left out of my last post: feeling. I expressed the facts, and not much but the facts. January had played her usual tricks on the Bay Area again, coming in all sunshine and beach-weather before making a sharp turn toward pure winter. I hadn’t dressed appropriately for the chilly […]
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Library Brian and the Hand Washing Incident
I can’t remember how I greeted my library date. Was it a hug? A handshake? Smiles were certainly in attendance though, and Library Brian (his nickname already coined affectionately by my friends) was even holding a canvas bag to hold his books in. Our literary escapades were going to be a serious business. The Oakland […]
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Life is Weird Sometimes
Alicia here again. Life is weird sometimes. Wait no. Life is weird most all of the time. I can’t say I much believe in fate or powers that be, but I can’t say I don’t much believe them either. I’m not sure if weirdness and fate (or the PTB) are related, but I have a […]
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Nicknames and Dating
Alicia here. Singles tend to play this game unofficially called, Nickname Our Dates.* The reasoning is twofold: First, it helps our friends/family/therapists/dental hygienists keep the potentials in some sense of order. Saying “Bob called,” gives them nothing to work with. Saying, “Bob, the guy whose room is decorated in photos of horses he got from old calendars,” […]
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