Thanksgivitude
There seems be an extra oomph of Thanksgivitude lolling about this year. Maybe it’s the number of Facebook friends sharing a daily dose of thankfulness. Maybe it’s the fact that while waiting in line to walk up the stairs at Bart, more people than ever before were giving money to the musician who was brightening […]
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You Think Beginnings Are Hard? Endings Are Hard.
It’s so weird to be somewhere that feels familiar but you don’t know why. Honolulu feels like that. I know there’s family history here, I know there are stories of my grandparents, my mom, and even me that reside here, but they’re all distant memories, faded too far by gosh knows what. The weirdness feels […]
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The Last Hawaiian Date
Guy or girl, first dates have some things in common: they’re nerve-wracking, overly simple but feel complex, and have the possibility of becoming nothing or an undefined something. The proof of this is in the pudding of my last Hawaiian date, with a girl I met on OkCupid. Our messages were short but not brief […]
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Dating, Venn Diagrams, and Partnerships
When we’re not dating, Megs and I are still dating. It’s impossible not to. No, it’s not like she and I are actually dating in the sense that we’re intimately connected, but our friendship is a mix of business and social, and can feel more like a relationship than a simple palship. Sometimes we’re working with […]
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Are You the Koala’s Cupcake? (And other thoughts from a Hawaii date…)
In the datingverse, there’s a fine line between marketing yourself smartly and over-selling yourself. A lack of confidence means potential dates have a harder time seeing your value* so some self-appreciation is required. However, promising that you are the bee’s knees, the cat’s meow, the panther’s tail and the koala’s cupcake all rolled into one builds […]
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Flying, Strangers and Anxiety Medication
Jittery as I was before the Hawaii flight, Megan marched me to a cafe at the airport and told me to get a drink. While she sipped a respectable Earl Gray tea, I powered through a Bloody Mary (not typically my morning brew of choice) and prayed the empty stomach I’d awoken with meant the […]
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Preparation HI
When I was 10-almost-11, I flew to Hawaii by myself to visit my grandparents. As one of eight grandchildren (one of seven granddaughters, my brother blessed with being the only boy) it was a treat with sprinkles, a whipped cream and multiple cherries to get to spend a week alone with Betty and Bill. I […]
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