Are You Ready for This?
When I was 22, I dated a fantastic man. He got married last year, and when I saw his photos, I had to remind myself that at the time, I wasn’t ready. I didn’t know it at the time. But I wasn’t ready. When I was 27, I dated a fantastic man. He’s engaged now, […]
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Trial Balloons
I had the most Oakland of Saturdays this weekend. After a run through the Trestle Glen hills, I made a pot of coffee and typed emails. Within half an hour I was on my way to the farmer’s market with Amara, and doing the broccoli wave to friends Michelle and Gary while ogling farm-fresh eggs. […]
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Is All Fair in Dating When it Comes to Love?
Fairness is an idea that popped up a lot in my datingverse. On the road, Megan and I debated what was “fair” when it came to a first date. Does one owe a first date anything beyond guarded politeness? Is it okay to end a date “early” if you know you don’t see a lifetime […]
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The Stigma of the “On-and-Off” Relationship
(Ed note: Once again, we have guest blogger Angie! An engineer by day, food blogger on nights and weekends, and an all around thinker no matter the time in San Francisco. Enjoy her brave, bold, and strong take on this oft snubbed topic.) Two and a half years ago, my boyfriend of eight years and I broke […]
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What Should You Do on Valentine’s Day?
There’s that whole “What are you doing New Year’s Eve?” song, that yes, is very sweet — but I feel like there’s a market for a “What are we doing Valentine’s Day?” that isn’t being tapped into. Except, instead of being a lullaby about if you wanted to hang out, it’d be a zippy tune […]
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A Treatise on Status Updates
Sometimes I start typing, and as my fingers flick across the keyboard I fall under the illusion that I am writing ideas that are fresh and new, that I am exploring relationships and dating in a new paradigm, that these words are going to change the way we think about love. Today is not one […]
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Some Days, Two Loves Combine
Yesterday was one of those days. For my day job, I posted a blog titled “How to Use PDF: Online Dating Edition” over at Nitro. That’s right – it’s a blog about two things I like one whole heck of a lot: dating and PDF. Want to see what the new way of managing your dating […]
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A Response to The Worst Online Dating Profile Ever
(Ed note: Folks, meet Angie! She’s kicking off something a little new around here: occasional guest posts! Fresh voices, new points of view, and a little extra time for Alicia to work on her book and Megan to finish the movie. Angie is an engineer by day, food blogger on nights and weekends, and a […]
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New Moon Love vs. Real Life Love
Ed note: apparently holidays lead to writer’s block. First, because attempting to make an earring selection at Clare’s for your second-cousins is wildly mind consuming, and second, because every time you sit down to edit something reasonably good you’ve written, you get distracted by Julie and Julia and sparkly wine, or by home movies and […]
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A Script for an Over-the-Phone Just Not That Into You Convo
A long time ago in a galaxy far, far away, I asked other people advice about dating. Who am I kidding, I still totally do that! Needing dating and relationship advice never goes away, whether you’re on a first date, ten months into a relationship, recently engaged or married for thirty years. Anyway, I was […]
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