Risky Date: A Comic About Rape Culture
Ed notes: This comic was originally published on Robot Hugs and republished here with their permission. (Trigger Warning: Sexual assault and rape culture) Before I meet a first date for the first time, I have a ritual: I send my roommate and/or best friend as much of their name as I have, their phone number, their place […]
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Look, We’re Almost Thirty
Ed note: I pulled this from the archives while I was looking through old files. This was written before 50/50 was even an idea, before the guy with the pony broke up with me, before anything on this blog was even thought to exist. Which is endlessly fascinating to me. Anyway, this piece was strangely […]
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Heartbeats and Mistaken Identities
There’s an arc to a crush. The slow build, the death-not-defying drop, the re-stabilization. If plotted on a graph, it would look something like a heartbeat. And not much about a crush has changed since high school, especially when the crush in question is in your neighborhood, on your daily path. You do the dance of […]
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Feigned Indifference
I pretend not to react when I catch sight of his hairline just past mid-neck. When I imagined this scenario, I’d assumed it would be his gray-green eyes I’d be avoiding, not the familiar curve of his glasses tucked just over his ear. Immediately I remember feeling the nubs of the tortoiseshell frames under my […]
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FWB
In Kindergarten, I loved to play house. We had a whole mini kitchen set-up in our classroom. Anywhere between two and ten of us would crowd next to the stove, boss one another around, and play out social dynamics that would last the rest of our childhood lives. We didn’t listen to one another, and […]
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Phase Four
Happy to bring you a new voice from the datingsphere this week, my friend Will. He recently returned to dating, and I’m probably way too excited to be able to share this piece with you. Enjoy! Another night, another mediocre date. …that’s probably not quite fair. Still, I doubt it’d qualify for anyone’s short list […]
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Knock Offs
Years ago, a beak-faced ex and I were looking like hares to relocate to the Bay Area, after having spent a tortoise-paced 10 months in Orange County. We were on a secret mission, one even my local parents knew nothing about, and we had approximately 36 hours (sleep included) to find and sign on an […]
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On Why I Breast My Cards
I’m actually pretty terrible at breasting my cards, or hiding my Scrabble letters, or not smirking at my own made up definitions during Balderdash. Hiding what I have rarely comes naturally to me, whether we’re talking games or personal opinions. And dear lord, if you’ve ever seen my face in motion, it’s an expressive piece […]
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Are You Serious About Austin? Part 2 of 2
(Ed note: This story began yesterday, and it’s recommended you start there before proceeding. Or not.) Where were we? Oh right… “Planning on kissing someone?” the man in a white-polo shirt asked me, sliding me a foil wrapped stick. “Planning on more than that,” I said. The men dissolved into laughter, and I walked into the […]
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The Best View
Last week, my work rented out a spacious, crazy-amazing deck on the 40th floor of a fancy pants hotel in San Francisco with the express purpose of watching the Blue Angels practice their stunt work for Fleet Week. Wind gently whipped across my face, rose sparkling wine flowed freely, and I felt at peace with […]
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