Forcing the Olive Branch
Preface: As a friend said to me recently, “Of course I want to be liked. Preferably by everyone.” Some people are reactionary; urgently, compulsively reactionary. As Melody Beattie puts it: “We keep ourselves in a crisis state, ready to react to emergencies that aren’t usually emergencies. Someone does something, so we must do something back. […]
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Conversations in the Dark
Long, dark drives when cell phones have passed out of batteries and the roads are just clear enough that attention to being able to stop-and-go in a stick shift isn’t necessary are moments ripe for falling into conversation about that which you should talk about, but don’t want to. As it was for A-Ron and […]
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Is this what I’m trying so hard to find?
One of my favorite couples is separating. No, this isn’t a Nick and Jessica moment (though admittedly I was secretly a tiny bit bummed to hear about that) or a Demi and Ashton moment. These are friends, one of whom was blindsided by the news that the other needed a change of scene, a change […]
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Dating, Venn Diagrams, and Partnerships
When we’re not dating, Megs and I are still dating. It’s impossible not to. No, it’s not like she and I are actually dating in the sense that we’re intimately connected, but our friendship is a mix of business and social, and can feel more like a relationship than a simple palship. Sometimes we’re working with […]
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The Dark Matter of Breakups
One of the downfalls of dating – and of being a human who goes outside (or even of the Boo Radley variety for that matter) – is the aftermath of breakups. Since the whole fifty dates project was inspired by a heartbreaking work of breakuppery, ghosts of relationships past have certainly wafted through my mind […]
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Only Thing To Do Is Jump Over the Moon
There’s this weird thing that happens when you set out on a life-changing adventure: it changes your life. I know, I know – that should be apparent by the very defining term of “life-changing adventure” but I guess I wasn’t quite prepared for precisely how my existence was going to be altered. I expected to […]
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I’m Calling Some Shenanigans
Every year, my friend Liz used to write reflections about Valentine’s Day. Sometimes she was single, sometimes she was taken. This year, for the first time, she’s engaged for the holiday, and this time next year she’ll be married. She was in town for the week of V-Day, and for the first time since she’d […]
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