Who’s Been Raped? This Girl.
For the past seven years, right around this time I find myself anxious without just cause. Jitters and jumpiness, leaping lizards and all sorts of other springy-bouncy feelings zip through my nervous system, my body tensing for no reason as I rest my weary head moments before sleep. Finally I look at the calendar and […]
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Repost: You Are Who You Were At 12
If you’re not following my friend, 72 Inches of Pure Lady, and you’re a quarter-lifer (or thereabouts) who thinks about where your place is in the world of working, loving, dreaming, and being, you my want to check her out. I admire her writing, style, honesty, and thinking (and have since I was about 10 […]
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On the Inhumane Treatment of Ex’s
Last week delivered me a doozy couple of days. There was the brusque one-armed pseudo salute of someone who once told me they always wanted me as part of their life, no matter what. Which I understood. I’m not his favorite person anymore – and sometimes we make promises we intend to keep but cannot. […]
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Let Moments Be Moments
I am prone to eventicizing moments in my life. Perhaps it’s the storytellerish person in me – the one who revels in sharing an experience with another so we can wonder at it together. Perhaps it’s because some moments feel one hell of a lot like an event. Sometimes we build things up in our […]
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A Third Date That Will Live in Infamy
Despite some smish-smash of textversation that resulted in confusion as to when, where, and how we’d meet up, my third date with Lux began with only one hitch: he wasn’t at the restaurant. I’d circled the place twice, brightly colored shirts every which way, but he was nowhere to be seen. As I reached to […]
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Conversations in the Dark
Long, dark drives when cell phones have passed out of batteries and the roads are just clear enough that attention to being able to stop-and-go in a stick shift isn’t necessary are moments ripe for falling into conversation about that which you should talk about, but don’t want to. As it was for A-Ron and […]
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Winner: Most Ingenious Profile Moment
OkCupid is a place of never-ending surprise. You might think you’ve seen it all. In fact, you might feel like you need a break because everyone is blurring together, the people you message never message you back, and the people who do message you don’t seem to be your cup of tea. But then. You […]
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Musings Re: Tinder
I wanted to start this post with a sentence that began The weird thing about Tinder is…but I realized that was probably the most ridiculous, and obvious, way to begin a thought about Tinder. So instead I give you this: The un-weird thing about Tinder is how accurately it mimics real life. Imagine you’re at the […]
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When You Mix Dating and Cats (A Call for a Fuzzball Home in SF/Oakland)
About five years ago (whoa) I was six months in to dating a man who was wrapping me up in his love. Being around him put me at peace yet electrified every skin cell. From the first moment I saw him, all I could think of was picking up any caution I had and tossing […]
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Pretty Girl
Our early experiences in relationships of the intimate variety shape us in strange ways. I used to shudder when a boy – the I hope he likes me as much as I like him sort of boy – called me pretty, or beautiful, or sexy. I’d glance anywhere but in his eyes; just over his plaid-shirted […]
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