When You Mix Dating and Cats (A Call for a Fuzzball Home in SF/Oakland)
About five years ago (whoa) I was six months in to dating a man who was wrapping me up in his love. Being around him put me at peace yet electrified every skin cell. From the first moment I saw him, all I could think of was picking up any caution I had and tossing […]
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The Stigma of the “On-and-Off” Relationship
(Ed note: Once again, we have guest blogger Angie! An engineer by day, food blogger on nights and weekends, and an all around thinker no matter the time in San Francisco. Enjoy her brave, bold, and strong take on this oft snubbed topic.) Two and a half years ago, my boyfriend of eight years and I broke […]
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Just Labor Day Fun
Because really, who embodies Labor Day more than Bob Marley? Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for […]
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Library Brian and the Hand Washing Incident
I can’t remember how I greeted my library date. Was it a hug? A handshake? Smiles were certainly in attendance though, and Library Brian (his nickname already coined affectionately by my friends) was even holding a canvas bag to hold his books in. Our literary escapades were going to be a serious business. The Oakland […]
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The Return and Disappearance of Dr. P
Alicia here. Not too long after our first date, Dr. P invited me out again, and this time even offered to come to my side of the bay. Admittedly, I was still chatting with Adam and holding textversations with North Carolina, Dallas and Utah but those guys, much as I enjoyed our correspondence and the […]
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Adele and Datingverse Sociology
So, I’m at a house-warming party a month ago, kicking back with a glass of homemade lemonade to match my lemon-bar dessert, and a group of 30-somethings are gathered in backyard playing molkky and chewing* the breeze when the inevitable happens: we started talking about our professional lives and woo-eee, did this group of singles and […]
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Learning Nothing
I don’t think Adam or I tried to meet each other with ideas in our heads, but after almost two months of communicating, it was impossible not to. For me, there was a feeling of curiosity about what he’d be like, how he’d move, what his smile looked like when at first his face was […]
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Does Being Content Lead to Being Solo?
It never fails: when I should be doing work, or writing about something like the follow up to a bad first date I witnessed in Mississippi, I am instead overcome with thoughts spurred by yesterday’s series of conversations. Amid sunshine and starshine, we were talking about relationships, both where we’d been in the past dating […]
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Florida’s Redneck Riviera
We spent two days in Florida, on a little patch of the state known both fondly and jestingly as the Redneck Riviera. It’s true, we didn’t go for the more “stereotypical” beach cities of Miami or Orlando, where bikinis and Aloha shirts reign. This was a definite choice on my part – we’d seen Atlantic […]
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A Return to the Current State of Why
You know what I haven’t chattered on about for awhile? Why I’m on this trip. I figured the reasoning would evolve as we traveled. Forward motion and progression are natural after all. And darn it, as Dave Eggers says, “statis itself is criminal,” especially when we’re talking about intending to discover something, even if that […]
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