For the Best
Alicia here. There’s something I notably left out of my last post: feeling. I expressed the facts, and not much but the facts. January had played her usual tricks on the Bay Area again, coming in all sunshine and beach-weather before making a sharp turn toward pure winter. I hadn’t dressed appropriately for the chilly […]
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Library Brian and the Hand Washing Incident
I can’t remember how I greeted my library date. Was it a hug? A handshake? Smiles were certainly in attendance though, and Library Brian (his nickname already coined affectionately by my friends) was even holding a canvas bag to hold his books in. Our literary escapades were going to be a serious business. The Oakland […]
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The Return and Disappearance of Dr. P
Alicia here. Not too long after our first date, Dr. P invited me out again, and this time even offered to come to my side of the bay. Admittedly, I was still chatting with Adam and holding textversations with North Carolina, Dallas and Utah but those guys, much as I enjoyed our correspondence and the […]
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Nicknames and Dating
Alicia here. Singles tend to play this game unofficially called, Nickname Our Dates.* The reasoning is twofold: First, it helps our friends/family/therapists/dental hygienists keep the potentials in some sense of order. Saying “Bob called,” gives them nothing to work with. Saying, “Bob, the guy whose room is decorated in photos of horses he got from old calendars,” […]
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Go Go Gadget, Date!
Alicia here. Dating in California did not feel “cool” despite the crisp, wintery air that almost made wearing a pea coat a reasonable decision. In fact, dating felt like an gently inclined battle, where determining whether men were interested in me or merely in the yarns I’d spin about having traveled and dated. I learned […]
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The Rest of the Story
Alicia here. Fortunately/unfortunately, the rest of the 50/50 story can’t be wrapped up in one blog-post of “what happened next?” Saddle up, friends – much like the inspiration for this posts’ title, the rest of the story will be going for a little bit longer. Plus, Megs will still be telling her tales from the road […]
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Second (and Third) Dates With…
As I sit to write this (who am I kidding: I’m totally laying down like a sphinx to write this), the lyrics from FUN.’s Some Nights won’t stop tootling through my mind: “Some nights I stay up cashing in my bad luck, some nights I call it a draw.” By tootling, I mean that every time […]
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State By State
When things get rough and tumble in my head around the idea of scheduling and getting it all done, I remind myself of the fact that Anne Lamott dedicated the entire title to her book to how to approach an overwhelming sense of everythingness: bird by bird. State by state works too, as does Meg’s […]
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Learning Nothing
I don’t think Adam or I tried to meet each other with ideas in our heads, but after almost two months of communicating, it was impossible not to. For me, there was a feeling of curiosity about what he’d be like, how he’d move, what his smile looked like when at first his face was […]
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Do You Ever Really Know?
Normally, I would not recommend the following: 1. Going on a first date with an internet stranger at their humble abode. 2. Going on a first date when you know you have more first dates lined up for a project and you know, you absolutely know, that you’ll have to be 100% committed to dating […]
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