Why #YesAllWomen Is Really About Men, After All | Role Reboot
One of my dates from the road – one of my brilliant, handsome, thoughtful, engaging, dynamic and wonderful dates – wrote this for Role Reboot. And frankly, it’s worth a read. Tahir is wise, eloquent, and I am grateful to know him. Here’s a snippet: In the few days since the shootings at Isla Vista, […]
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In Which The Word “Shit” Is Used Quite A Bit
Almost six months ago, Simone and I were texting about giving a shit. I just don’t care anymore, I told her. I seriously think you’re just out of shits to give, she replied. Tapped out. Over everything. Over life, I responded. Not really. But. Yep, she said. Almost six months ago, I was out of shits to give. […]
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Compassion, Change and Cow-Print Earmuffs
For almost 32 years, the universe has been trying to tell me something. And damn, if I haven’t spent a lot of time with giant, fuzzy, cow-print ear muffs over my ears staring into the abyss of stars yelling, I can’t hear you! in a genuinely confused way. I didn’t realize the problem wasn’t volume or […]
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Self Consciously Being Single
Ed note: Pulled this from the archives, around June 2012. My scientist father is notorious for taking photos at every occasion – and not just one photo. Each picture he sets up must be captured multiple times just in case. Statistically speaking, it makes sense: a wider sample group means you’re more likely to get […]
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Are You Ready for This?
When I was 22, I dated a fantastic man. He got married last year, and when I saw his photos, I had to remind myself that at the time, I wasn’t ready. I didn’t know it at the time. But I wasn’t ready. When I was 27, I dated a fantastic man. He’s engaged now, […]
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Trial Balloons
I had the most Oakland of Saturdays this weekend. After a run through the Trestle Glen hills, I made a pot of coffee and typed emails. Within half an hour I was on my way to the farmer’s market with Amara, and doing the broccoli wave to friends Michelle and Gary while ogling farm-fresh eggs. […]
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Is All Fair in Dating When it Comes to Love?
Fairness is an idea that popped up a lot in my datingverse. On the road, Megan and I debated what was “fair” when it came to a first date. Does one owe a first date anything beyond guarded politeness? Is it okay to end a date “early” if you know you don’t see a lifetime […]
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The Stigma of the “On-and-Off” Relationship
(Ed note: Once again, we have guest blogger Angie! An engineer by day, food blogger on nights and weekends, and an all around thinker no matter the time in San Francisco. Enjoy her brave, bold, and strong take on this oft snubbed topic.) Two and a half years ago, my boyfriend of eight years and I broke […]
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What Should You Do on Valentine’s Day?
There’s that whole “What are you doing New Year’s Eve?” song, that yes, is very sweet — but I feel like there’s a market for a “What are we doing Valentine’s Day?” that isn’t being tapped into. Except, instead of being a lullaby about if you wanted to hang out, it’d be a zippy tune […]
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A Treatise on Status Updates
Sometimes I start typing, and as my fingers flick across the keyboard I fall under the illusion that I am writing ideas that are fresh and new, that I am exploring relationships and dating in a new paradigm, that these words are going to change the way we think about love. Today is not one […]
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