Why #YesAllWomen Is Really About Men, After All | Role Reboot
One of my dates from the road – one of my brilliant, handsome, thoughtful, engaging, dynamic and wonderful dates – wrote this for Role Reboot. And frankly, it’s worth a read. Tahir is wise, eloquent, and I am grateful to know him. Here’s a snippet: In the few days since the shootings at Isla Vista, […]
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As a woman who has devoted one hell of a lot of time, energy and tears to the datingverse – and thus has both politely turned down dates, impolitely turned down dates, and been politely and impolitely turned down – it’s hard not to want to say something about the recent events that have made […]
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In Memorandum
I’ve been choking on my heart today. I can feel it resting where an Adam’s apple would, making swallowing a rather heady endeavor. Literally, I’m pushing liquids to the top of my throat, then wooshing them down – I stopped trying to get my heart back down to my lungs hours ago. It’s all in the […]
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A Second Return to the Current State of Why
A lot of snail mail arrives at my parent’s house for me. A few odds and ends from places I never updated my address on, Urban Outfitter’s catalog (no matter how many times I ask to be taken off because if I needed to know what was happening at UO, I’d look it up online), […]
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From the Un-Balancing Files
Balancing “being my own best friend” along with “being a good friend to other people” has not gone so well. Glad I was prepared for this whole new world to not be a cake walk. Why can’t transitions be cake walks with mocha buttercream frosting? Maybe because then we’d all be like “let’s transition like […]
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The Song of Relationships Past
While I was still covered in face paint from the night before, I went running. And then this song came on. It came on again while I was writing at my favorite pub. The song of relationships past it seemed to bellow from beneath the staccato “Ho’s” and “Hey’s.” Sadness tried to grab me. My inner self-beast tried […]
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In Which The Word “Shit” Is Used Quite A Bit
Almost six months ago, Simone and I were texting about giving a shit. I just don’t care anymore, I told her. I seriously think you’re just out of shits to give, she replied. Tapped out. Over everything. Over life, I responded. Not really. But. Yep, she said. Almost six months ago, I was out of shits to give. […]
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Compassion, Change and Cow-Print Earmuffs
For almost 32 years, the universe has been trying to tell me something. And damn, if I haven’t spent a lot of time with giant, fuzzy, cow-print ear muffs over my ears staring into the abyss of stars yelling, I can’t hear you! in a genuinely confused way. I didn’t realize the problem wasn’t volume or […]
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But seriously. Love. Yourself. Unconditionally.
What follows is probably going to sound like page straight out of a PSA titled Self-Help 101, but the topic has incessantly and incandescently been rolling through my mind like that little marble in the Labyrinth board game, dodging manholes (admittedly falling in quite often). Last week I wrote, My real fear-based decision was arguably […]
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Write Down Why You are Eff-ing Remarkable
Someone recently told me they didn’t think I loved myself enough to be in a relationship with them. It was an astute point, one I couldn’t quite argue with — though one I have spent the past four months in counseling talking about, crying about, and dealing with. You don’t have to know me for […]
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