Winner: Most Ingenious Profile Moment
OkCupid is a place of never-ending surprise. You might think you’ve seen it all. In fact, you might feel like you need a break because everyone is blurring together, the people you message never message you back, and the people who do message you don’t seem to be your cup of tea. But then. You […]
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Musings Re: Tinder
I wanted to start this post with a sentence that began The weird thing about Tinder is…but I realized that was probably the most ridiculous, and obvious, way to begin a thought about Tinder. So instead I give you this: The un-weird thing about Tinder is how accurately it mimics real life. Imagine you’re at the […]
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When You Mix Dating and Cats (A Call for a Fuzzball Home in SF/Oakland)
About five years ago (whoa) I was six months in to dating a man who was wrapping me up in his love. Being around him put me at peace yet electrified every skin cell. From the first moment I saw him, all I could think of was picking up any caution I had and tossing […]
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Movers and Shakers
Shaken awake, I laid in bed for a few heartbeats before deciding, yes, yes, this was indeed and earthquake and bolted to a doorless doorway for the duration of the quake (which lasted many more heartbeats, but given my ticker was thumping along as if I had just jumped out of a hot air balloon, […]
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On Opening Up Your Ribcage for Public Criticism
One of the hardest parts about accepting that I feel compelled to write about my life, that I notoriously have quite low boundaries (upon hearing I didn’t want to finish a story because it was embarrassing, my friend Kane once said “Man, I have never heard you say that!”) and that I share said writing […]
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Pretty Girl
Our early experiences in relationships of the intimate variety shape us in strange ways. I used to shudder when a boy – the I hope he likes me as much as I like him sort of boy – called me pretty, or beautiful, or sexy. I’d glance anywhere but in his eyes; just over his plaid-shirted […]
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On Coffee and Defense Mechanisms
A few afternoons ago I detoured away from my desk to do some serious creative brainstorming for my job, wedging myself onto a barstool at a nearby hipster coffee shop (you know, the sort of place where bearded baristas touting Don Quixote tattoos serve rib-cage looking latte art to try and ease the pain of […]
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The Fade Away
Disclaimer/Side Note: The first rule of dating advice is there are no absolutes in dating. It’s freaking Tag War out there, people. Anything can – and occasionally will – work at least once when the right sets of chemistry come together and kapow. I point this out only to say that my following thoughts on how […]
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Any Random Wednesday
There’s a song lyric by Jewel (yes, that Jewel. Or rather, this one) that I’ve always loved, which has been belting out like a drunk karaoke fanatic through my head the last few days: I’d rather see the world from another angle. Except every time the imaginary crooner sings, she goes I have to […]
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Guest Blog: Like a Lot of Things in Life
Readers, meet my darling friend Whitney. I know darling sounds diminutive, which size-wise she is. But personality and wisdom-wise, no no. She is bold, and embracing the bravery that comes with figuring life out. Whitney is the one who made me realize the key idea that bravery sucks. It’s hard. Being brave is not easy – […]
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