Pascal

He wasn’t just obsessed with triangles and theorems. French mathworm Blase Pascal was a bit of a philosophical chap as well. Exhibit A:

The heart has its reasons that reason doesn’t understand. 

A messy translation of an equally messy concept. As people, we are made up of both heart and reason, and yet, the two often run parallel rather than intersecting. This division is applied liberally in the datingverse. We like who we like, sometimes in the face of some glaringly large and shiny red flags. We don’t like who we don’t like, without an objectively good explanation, leading us to tell our friends, He looks good on paper, but I don’t know.

Many of us are prone to beat ourselves up over Pascal’s truth (the missing “t” in his obsessions mentioned early). We must be fucked up if our heart isn’t into a good-on-paper-person. We must be fucked up if we are good-on-paper person who someone’s heart isn’t into.

But what if it’s not about that. 

What if we aren’t one thing or another.

What if we just are?

When I allow myself to just be, rather than to be something, I give myself freedom to retell my story of myself. And then, when my heart has its reasons, reason doesn’t have to understand.

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Photo by Jeff Sheldon on Unsplash

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