Why Jordana Narin’s “No Labels, No Drama, Right?” is So Damn Spot On
As someone who has spent the last year and a half without definition in my intimate connections (though certainly with plenty of defining moments, and yes mom, that’s all I’ll say about that), I placed my chin in the palm of my hand like a teacup rests in a saucer as I read Jordana Narin’s […]
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Risky Date: A Comic About Rape Culture
Ed notes: This comic was originally published on Robot Hugs and republished here with their permission. (Trigger Warning: Sexual assault and rape culture) Before I meet a first date for the first time, I have a ritual: I send my roommate and/or best friend as much of their name as I have, their phone number, their place […]
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The Doo-doo’s and Don’ts of Discussing Disgusting Matters on a First Date
Let’s start this subject off with a cautionary tale from the archives of my first-dating repertoire (and my, how so many stories have yet to be told!). Ian was earning his MFT at a tiny university no one in Oakland has heard of. While he told me about seeing patients for the first time, I imagined […]
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I’m an Invisible Girlfriend
For a lark, my roommate sent me a site she discovered – Invisible Boyfriend. The premise is simple: sign up, pay, and have hired strangers write texts to you throughout the day so it looks to the outside world like you have a sweet someone in your life. I have so much more to say about this, […]
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Look, We’re Almost Thirty
Ed note: I pulled this from the archives while I was looking through old files. This was written before 50/50 was even an idea, before the guy with the pony broke up with me, before anything on this blog was even thought to exist. Which is endlessly fascinating to me. Anyway, this piece was strangely […]
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How to Drink on a First Date
My friend, Matthew Latkiewicz, knows a lot about drinking. No, really. More than you. I promise. I mostly promise because he just published a book, You Suck at Drinking. I also promise because I’ve been a stander-by at his bar seat and a guest in his home (stunningly designed by his talented wife, Small Victories Design, should anyone be […]
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Okay
I once told a boyfriend that if we broke up, it would not break me. Our forms were slurped into bucket car seats, the gray stick shift resting between us like a symbol of freedom though all we wanted to do was be together. “Are you saying you want to break up,” he said. It […]
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Girl Gaming
In accordance to the older generations of women in my family, in my early 20’s my mom chimed in with some dating advice of her own for me: “He chased her, and chased her, and chased her until she caught him.” Like her mother’s advice before her, it was a sentiment I didn’t want to […]
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