The Rest in the Music (Or, Going Slow)
While running together recently one morning, a friend asked me for advice on how to take things slow in the datingverse. She has a crush, and wants to be healthy about her crush. In fact, she’s even told him she was on a dating hiatus to which he replied, that’s totally fine, just let me know […]
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State By State
When things get rough and tumble in my head around the idea of scheduling and getting it all done, I remind myself of the fact that Anne Lamott dedicated the entire title to her book to how to approach an overwhelming sense of everythingness: bird by bird. State by state works too, as does Meg’s […]
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Boy, Crazy.
There was a lull between the lower 48 states road trip and getting to Alaska and Hawaii. We planned this respite from travel for a few reasons: to replenish our funds via working (Megs literally went to work the morning after we returned, I followed suit five days later) and to hang out with our […]
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Learning Nothing
I don’t think Adam or I tried to meet each other with ideas in our heads, but after almost two months of communicating, it was impossible not to. For me, there was a feeling of curiosity about what he’d be like, how he’d move, what his smile looked like when at first his face was […]
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The Relationship Puzzle
More on the Adam story tomorrow, promise. A common complaint from internet dating is that their date didn’t look like their photo. Sure, to some degree people are running around posting their hottest photos taken at their best angles, but I think what happens more often is that people look different when they are in […]
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Neg Or Not?
Ed note: since writing this piece, have learned this is not a neg and is simply poorly executed potential flirtation. However, this did lead to the question of “what is my responsibility as a dater who wants to make the dating world a better place to inform people their tactics aren’t working?” Oh hey, […]
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Do You Ever Really Know?
Normally, I would not recommend the following: 1. Going on a first date with an internet stranger at their humble abode. 2. Going on a first date when you know you have more first dates lined up for a project and you know, you absolutely know, that you’ll have to be 100% committed to dating […]
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First Things First: A First Date In California
Post drink and fries with Noah and Mrs. P (Meg’s flower-bearing mom), we unloaded Huckleberry Fit for the last time, with a cavalier attitude thought not in any way, shape, or form carelessly. Then Megs got in the van with her mom, Noah gave me a hug and got in his van and I…well, I […]
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Homeward Bound
I’m not sure how well either of us slept last night, despite knowing we had a ten hour drive ahead to tackle come morning. A drive, I should mention, we planned on doing without using a map. For the first time in over two months, we don’t need to be dependent on following a route, […]
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A Real Las Vegas Date (Stripless, Of Course)
The razzle-dazzling, dinging-bejazzle of the Las Vegas Pinball Hall of Fame Museum Arcade (which may or may not be its official title) are unexpected as from the outside, this gray slab of building resembles the older model Costco’s. Like, back when they were Price Club, older model Costco’s.* While the off-the-strip structure appeared almost morose in […]
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