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But seriously. Love. Yourself. Unconditionally.

What follows is probably going to sound like page straight out of a PSA titled Self-Help 101, but the topic has incessantly and incandescently been rolling through my mind like that little marble in the Labyrinth board game, dodging manholes (admittedly falling in quite often). Last week I wrote, My real fear-based decision was arguably […]

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Write Down Why You are Eff-ing Remarkable

Someone recently told me they didn’t think I loved myself enough to be in a relationship with them. It was an astute point, one I couldn’t quite argue with — though one I have spent the past four months in counseling talking about, crying about, and dealing with. You don’t have to know me for […]

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What’s scarier than nightmares? Fear.

Sand would be the preferred place to stick my head, but I’d settle for the corner of my closet behind my collection of three pea coats in various lengths and hues or the cubby in a set of shelves behind my faux Murphy bed. All this Oakland sunshine has been seeping through my turned up […]

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Self Consciously Being Single

Ed note: Pulled this from the archives, around June 2012.  My scientist father is notorious for taking photos at every occasion – and not just one photo. Each picture he sets up must be captured multiple times just in case. Statistically speaking, it makes sense: a wider sample group means you’re more likely to get […]

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Are You Ready for This?

When I was 22, I dated a fantastic man. He got married last year, and when I saw his photos, I had to remind myself that at the time, I wasn’t ready. I didn’t know it at the time. But I wasn’t ready. When I was 27, I dated a fantastic man. He’s engaged now, […]

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A Woman’s Right to Be in Public

I went to the beach because I wanted to live life deliberately. Due to unexpected circumstances, I had a Thursday off, and after spending hours writing about Idaho* for the 50/50 book in the corner of my local pub, I wanted to get away from technology.** The weather was exactly what you’d imagine California weather […]

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Trial Balloons

I had the most Oakland of Saturdays this weekend. After a run through the Trestle Glen hills, I made a pot of coffee and typed emails. Within half an hour I was on my way to the farmer’s market with Amara, and doing the broccoli wave to friends Michelle and Gary while ogling farm-fresh eggs. […]

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Would You Hire a Pro to Write Your Dating Profile?

In a recent Today.com Style article, writer Danika Fears asked a question near and dear to my heart: Smart or tacky? Busy brides outsource wedding vows, thank you notes. While the article  focuses on happy customers and the writing process, a poll attached asked readers if they would use a writing service. Of 950 respondents, […]

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The Bystander’s Quandary

(Todays guest post comes from my friend, Honor. She’s married, but that doesn’t mean she hasn’t found herself in a relationship-related pickle. Feel free to leave advice/thoughts in the comments section! Honor, the floor is yours.)  So I’m in a quandary. I have a friend, let’s call him Mike, that I’ve known since before we […]

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Dating and Data

Deconstructing the construction of successful online dating profiles has been all the rage lately. It may really have hit the spotlight with Amy Webb’s mathematical approach to writing the right profile, highlighted in Data: A Love Story in January of 2013, eventually trickling to Alli Reed’s Four Things I Learned From the Worst Online Dating […]

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