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On the Inhumane Treatment of Ex’s

Last week delivered me a doozy couple of days. There was the brusque one-armed pseudo salute of someone who once told me they always wanted me as part of their life, no matter what. Which I understood. I’m not his favorite person anymore – and sometimes we make promises we intend to keep but cannot. […]

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Sometimes

  Sometimes I found myself mentally begging to nobody in particular, One day my heart will stop hurting, right? Then I looked up at my bookshelf and saw the mirror reflecting a pennant that hung on my wall: You have the heart of a lion. And I remembered that the only person who can resolve […]

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Let Moments Be Moments

I am prone to eventicizing moments in my life. Perhaps it’s the storytellerish person in me – the one who revels in sharing an experience with another so we can wonder at it together. Perhaps it’s because some moments feel one hell of a lot like an event. Sometimes we build things up in our […]

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Glow Little Spark, Glow

It is far too easy to sit in your studio apartment, writing someone else’s wedding vows as your mind flickers to an ex getting married at the exact same moment, and start to worry that this right here might be your life. Pristine white blinds, walls, china cabinet, built-ins that mimic the blank taste in […]

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A Third Date That Will Live in Infamy

Despite some smish-smash of textversation that resulted in confusion as to when, where, and how we’d meet up, my third date with Lux began with only one hitch: he wasn’t at the restaurant. I’d circled the place twice, brightly colored shirts every which way, but he was nowhere to be seen. As I reached to […]

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Conversations in the Dark

Long, dark drives when cell phones have passed out of batteries and the roads are just clear enough that attention to being able to stop-and-go in a stick shift isn’t necessary are moments ripe for falling into conversation about that which you should talk about, but don’t want to. As it was for A-Ron and […]

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Winner: Most Ingenious Profile Moment

OkCupid is a place of never-ending surprise. You might think you’ve seen it all. In fact, you might feel like you need a break because everyone is blurring together, the people you message never message you back, and the people who do message you don’t seem to be your cup of tea. But then. You […]

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Musings Re: Tinder

I wanted to start this post with a sentence that began The weird thing about Tinder is…but I realized that was probably the most ridiculous, and obvious, way to begin a thought about Tinder. So instead I give you this: The un-weird thing about Tinder is how accurately it mimics real life. Imagine you’re at the […]

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When You Mix Dating and Cats (A Call for a Fuzzball Home in SF/Oakland)

About five years ago (whoa) I was six months in to dating a man who was wrapping me up in his love.  Being around him put me at peace yet electrified every skin cell. From the first moment I saw him, all I could think of was picking up any caution I had and tossing […]

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Movers and Shakers

Shaken awake, I laid in bed for a few heartbeats before deciding, yes, yes, this was indeed and earthquake and bolted to a doorless doorway for the duration of the quake (which lasted many more heartbeats, but given my ticker was thumping along as if I had just jumped out of a hot air balloon, […]

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