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Mix Tape for Loving Kindness

When my heart feels the way it did the other day? I eventually fade into either meditation, NPR or, as my brother introduced me to with a mix-cd called “Wave to the Koala,” music. What did he say in the liner notes? Something about how music calms, and heals. Here’s a quick smattering of encouraging/compassion-inspiring […]

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Dismissiveness in Dating Culture

This status update appeared in my Facebook Newsfeed recently. I say appeared as if the apparition was magic, but of course, there was no bibbity-bobbity-boo involved; just someone I vaguely used to know wanted to share something.                     My jaw dropped a little. Here’s a woman […]

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What Will You Find When You Look Inside Your Heart?

My heart hurt so God-damned much in that moment. Every other beat felt like it was knocking on my ribcage, begging to escape. I should have been so lucky. Alicia of seven months ago would have started texting, calling, emailing, writing, Instagramming, Facebooking, or drinking (or some to all of those -ings) as a means […]

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Ideas Grow and Magic Happens #WDS2014

So. A few weeks ago one my freelance bosses had an idea I’ll call Come to the World Domination Summit in Portland! The name pretty much says it all. Adventure-seeking Alicia thought, “Booyah!” while hermit-crab-who-fears-flying Alicia thought, “Oh dear.” The former won my internal battle, mostly due to something I wrote to my friend Richard: …I’m […]

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When You Accidentally Send Nude Photos to Your Ex…

One of my favorite coworkers is remarkably taciturn. His bark has (hilarious) bite, but he’s more likely to keep mum than not. He probably adheres to that “if you don’t have anything to say, don’t say anything at all” adage (that’s how it goes, right?) which I clearly far too often forget to subscribe to. […]

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Achievement (Almost) Unlocked: Redefining Dating Success

Caitlin and I were walking home. To one side of us, trees. The other, commuters desperate to return home and buses who vote liberal with their horns. “It’s amazing to me how when I wasn’t dating, I didn’t care about being single. I didn’t think about it.” Caitlin had spent the better part of a […]

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The Math of An Awkward “Hello”

Greeting Russell was awkward, mostly because upon reaching up to hug him, I managed to swipe the tip of his nose with my thumb. Thankfully, I didn’t make it into his nostril, but I definitely grazed from one exterior bulge to the other. Being a gentleman (and for all I know, a scholar), Russell didn’t […]

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Save the Date

For my birthday, a darling friend of mine sent me a book. “I get it next!!” Was scrawled on the card. I removed the pink book-cover, taking note of the title: Save the Date: The Occasional Mortifications of a Serial Wedding Guest (Jen Doll). Admittedly, I was reluctant at first. It sounded Peep-like, frankly – sugar coated fluff.  The […]

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My Most Recent Note

I went on 50 first dates, one in every state, for a few reasons: because I wanted to prove dating didn’t suck. Because I wanted something to write about and dating was prevalent in my life anyway. Because talking to strangers makes me ridiculously happy and energetic. Because dating sometimes equals kissing. Most of all […]

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Choosing to Stand Still

My heart has been screaming go again lately. Screaming, I tell you. It’s a familiar feeling – the same sort of “let’s remix this business” feeling that propelled me get into a car and drive across the country and back with a filmmaker. The same sort of feeling that urges me to find a new apartment. […]

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