Girl Gaming
In accordance to the older generations of women in my family, in my early 20’s my mom chimed in with some dating advice of her own for me: “He chased her, and chased her, and chased her until she caught him.” Like her mother’s advice before her, it was a sentiment I didn’t want to […]
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The Mostly Definitive Break Up Album List
Ed note: Today, something a little different. My date from Maine, Sean, and I have stayed in touch since we met in a little brick bowling alley. His passion for music keeps me coming back to his Facebook page because I know hanging around there will introduce me to new bands I’ll probably like. Sean […]
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The 50 Dates Fear Machine
Pretty much since Megan and I took off up I-5 toward Portland, Oregon, a snake-like thought has hissed in the back of mind mind. Sometimes it’s a gardner snake, a tickling whisp easy enough to ignore. Sometimes it’s a party snake in a can that can simply be giggled at. But sometimes it’s a venomous […]
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How I Wanted to Love – And How I Do Now
Within two laps, the chlorinated water had numbed my lips the way thousands of kisses all in a row would, but I barely noticed. The bilateral pulse of arms was hypnotizing my mind into a blank space, where recent events were able to unfold without judgment or emotion. Like a free-style zombie, I replayed a […]
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Heartbeats and Mistaken Identities
There’s an arc to a crush. The slow build, the death-not-defying drop, the re-stabilization. If plotted on a graph, it would look something like a heartbeat. And not much about a crush has changed since high school, especially when the crush in question is in your neighborhood, on your daily path. You do the dance of […]
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Other People’s Love Stories
Tell me about it I’ve tossed out to date after date, boyfriend after boyfriend. About the intricacies of their jobs (I can talk BRT with the best of them and know quite a bit about the quagga issue). About their family dynamics (I’ve been whispered the darkest of the dark, and the joyfullest of the joyful). […]
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The Universe Has Been Good to Me
I’ve asked a lot from the universe over the past 365 days. I asked for self forgiveness, which I quickly learned was tied deeply to appreciating myself and recognizing a whole slew (with sesame seeds!) of internal conflicts and beliefs that inhibited me from accepting the thing I wanted most: to believe in unconditional love, […]
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When Will I Learn?
Dusk was already upon me as I walked home from my cozy co-working situation (also known as a dimly lit corner of a cafe with friends and coffee). A man whose bulk was carried in all parts of his college basketball height body crossed the street and wound up next me to as we walked […]
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Crazy Girls and Cowards
It’s not uncommon to hear the phrase Bitches be crazy* when sitting at a bar next to a group of men. Or when checking out Fuck Jerry‘s latest post on Instagram. Or when you’re one of two girls on a hike. “I can’t believe I acted that crazy,” I said to Claudia. Fog swallowed the […]
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