Hockey Games and Jadedness
Alicia here. There is perhaps, too often, too much seriousness placed on a second date. The holy grail of dating is to get past the initial awkward meeting. Many people seem to think that second date is a time to decide if this is the person they’re going to be in a longer-term relationship with. I […]
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Look for the Bubbles
Heartbreak has been in my head lately. Avid scourers of the 50/50 website have probably at some point noticed the Frank O’Hara quote toward the bottom of our homepage: Each time my heart is broken, it makes me feel more adventurous. I was not the first of the lonely-hearts club to seek solace in Mr. O’Hara. […]
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For the Best
Alicia here. There’s something I notably left out of my last post: feeling. I expressed the facts, and not much but the facts. January had played her usual tricks on the Bay Area again, coming in all sunshine and beach-weather before making a sharp turn toward pure winter. I hadn’t dressed appropriately for the chilly […]
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The Return and Disappearance of Dr. P
Alicia here. Not too long after our first date, Dr. P invited me out again, and this time even offered to come to my side of the bay. Admittedly, I was still chatting with Adam and holding textversations with North Carolina, Dallas and Utah but those guys, much as I enjoyed our correspondence and the […]
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We Don’t Always Remember What We’re Made Of
It’s amazing how you can be told the same thing over and over again, by a variety of people (occasionally even by fate/the universe/the powers that be at large), and the message refuses to sink in, until one day, the right person in the exact right situation tells you and TA-DA! Dust falls from certain levers […]
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The OkCupid Rebound Rumormill
I’ve heard it on good authority (aka, other daters) that OkCupid and Plenty of Fish are known for harboring a deep, dark secret: they’re a hotbed of guys and gals on the rebound. The Rebound is actually not a bad romcom movie title, but a state of “going from one relationship to the next right […]
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Ah Yes, North Carolina Tears. That Happened.
Why the tears, lass? Megan said something of the sort, interrupting herself in between simultaneously giving me directions to our homestay and interviewing me about North Carolina Mike. While likely concerned about my ability to drive unfamiliar highways through a flash flood in my eyes, she was also genuinely concerned and a bit lost. Didn’t […]
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Graciously Saying “No More Dates, Thanks!”
Folks, Alicia still is sort of out of intelligent writing commission today. So, enjoy a piece she wrote for another site about how to kindly let someone down. One of my personal flaws is not knowing when I want to stop dating someone. Sign one should probably be that I don’t return their phone calls in a […]
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Silence Isn’t Golden
I’ve signed your name on the universal list of those whose bravery failed them when it came time to end a quasi-relationship. The list is long, and much like a guest book or headstone, names are printed sans fanfare and on display without a story, history or eulogy recited. Because that’s what is typically done […]
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New York in 24 Hours, or Low-Stakes Dating…Or Actually, Both
Man, I could spend waaay too many hours stroking New York City’s ego. I’d wax perpendicularly about the view from the Empire State Building. I’d shout from the rooftops about sailing a boat on a tucked away lake by the Alice in Wonderland Statue. And the library? With the exhibit about lunch (yes, lunch!) — […]
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